He drives 20 miles to see me, we used to take turns but now I cant go to his house anymore because of the dog. I suspect that will be a harder mystery to unpick. No, but was referred to another phone number. Im super confused for myself right now (and how narcissistic is that right out of the gate!!). I will say that one of the saddest things I have been thinking about her, and about anyone with mental health conditions like the above mentioned is how much danger they could be putting themselves in if left untreated. Our marriage ended after 25 years and was through my choice in asking him to leave. It appears mirror neurons also play a role in personality condition-related issues. You need to free yourself and only you can do it. He is kind, considerate, loving, thoughtful, caring and tells me everyday how much I mean to him and how loved I am. I dont know why I cant stop caring about him. I feel like you wrote this just for me. Is the author advocating that partners of aspies should stay? That is a topic I will probably never find the answers to, because I finally lashed out at her in an unforgivable way after she ripped my heart out for the last time. 10. He was talking one day about his job and pedophiles came up and I mentioned Id been molested as a child. Now I know for sure Ive fibromyalgia and Im dealing with it alone. Observe the persons behavior, dont absorb it. Ive read Frederics contribution and the confusion and anger he expresses is difficult to read. I wonder myself, as I learned eventually to to tap into my mothers sanity, albeit temporarily, which was a gift in itself. You have to live your own life and have your own friends with these satanically possessed individuals But there is a big difference from one who knows he/she needs help and one who thinks he/she has all the answers and is always right, because they want to cover up their demons. IIRC, there can be both types. Autism and a Narcissistic Personality Disorder could suit him? There are many genuinely nice men in this world, but they dont continually go on that life is all about them. If I get upset about something he says Im too sensitive and were not compatible. Interesting question for sure. So when looking at the so called normal people, how many different traits are there? Is he manipulative, yes. He blames others for whatever happens, he was in denial at the beginning when he should have been organising the whole country to pull together, and it is still not pulling together. And in this situation knowing he is a narcissist has taken a lot of my wounding away from our very difficult relationship and I have come to terms with how our relationship is. Yes they may not realise that their emotions confuse the more normal people, but they do have a certain amount of empathy. The relationship will fail if you think that "dropping hints" or describing your needs in vague terms is enough to get your point across. Learn how they behave, think ahead of time to protect myself from future attacks to my safety etc. The narcissist harms other people because they are harmed themselves. My husband is fine with animals but has problems with humans. Frederic, please try to encourage happiness, in yourself, and any person who understands you. Understand you have to do things on your own.